We cannot build a healthy society by ignoring the elderly

Vijay Garg 

 

Like childhood and youth, old age is also an important phase of human life. The basic difference between old age, youth and childhood is that childhood and youth come and go once in life, but when old age comes, it stays with us till the last breath. Generally, a person who has seen the prime of his life for 60 years is recognized as a member of the old club. Society expects wisdom at this stage of age. Gives him the title of elder, but at that time It is sad when from a distance it seems that an old man is coming, but when he opens his mouth, he turns out to be an old man. The difference between an old man and an old man is that the old man always talks with wisdom while the old man only talks. Cracks are coming in every relationship in modern times. Parents often feel neglected in their old age. It is sad that children do not even hesitate to leave their parents in Bridh-ashrams. Such a social phenomenon is not only reprehensible but extremely shameful. So close itIt is necessary because we cannot create a healthy society by neglecting the elderly. Why is this problem getting worse day by day? Although the new generation is wrong in the principle of 'eat, drink, do ash', materialism is gaining weight on values, but still it cannot be said that children are always wrong. Many times the fault of the parents is also seen. Most of the elders are disciplined by their parents during their childhood and they have worked hard in their life. So now they also have their own childrenwant to rebuke, but highly educated children arguably do a lot of talking. In the era of mechanization, the new generation does not tolerate talk-talk, while the old generation wants to impose its experience and knowledge on them. After marriage, when the parents start considering their daughter-in-law as just a permanent servant, then the problem starts from here. The girl who has seen her father suffering during the negotiation during the betrothal. It is also foolish to expect sincere respect from him. In this situationAction has a reaction. In this cycle of reaction, action, relationships begin to suffer. When your son gets married, you should consider your daughter-in-law as your daughter because she leaves her home and parents and comes to your house at the time of marriage. Now you are his parents. It is up to you how you take it. The way you treat him will be the same. If you behave with good values, you will get respect in return. A situation where someone is forced to pressAfter that it will break or bounce back with the same force. We cannot deny this principle of science. Parents often complain about changes in their son's behavior after marriage. The parents think that their son is naive and Noah is clever. Because of this, he has become a slave of the wife. However, this is not always the case. Parents should keep one thing in mind that your son is also someone's husband. Nowadays, if educated boys help their wives with work, they are called 'slaves of force'.’ cannot be said because the wife does many such works which are the husband’s share. Only with mutual support can the chariot of householder's life move forward. When many elders get a new daughter-in-law, they start seeing many shortcomings in the older daughter-in-law who came before. They forget who has served them so far. The new member sometimes does not interrupt the elders to settle in the family, but after a year when she starts to show her color, it seems that now she has started talking more. The behavior of the guests who came to the houseMany times, when the elder sighs and says, 'Just come,' then the guest can understand from his tone that he is ready to share his sorrows. When he gets a chance, the old man pours out his feelings in front of the guests like wheat from a drum. Then this special guest distributes the 'suffering' of the old man and his children by interceding among all the relatives. In the next few days, the situation improves and the atmosphere of the house becomes normal, but the damage to the children's image among all the relatives cannot be compensated. ESo don't badmouth your children to your relatives but feel proud by mentioning your children's achievements, because what your children can do for you, relatives cannot do. It is not a very good thing to call others as son and son again and again and to always call your sons as Roab. Elders should spend time with young children. Take them out for a walk. Keeping health in mind, take the children to eat sometimes. This way you will have a good timeAnd children will love you more. A sarpanch friend of mine does not respect his daughter-in-law's parents when they come to their house, but when he tells others about his daughter-in-law, he says, 'I don't know about other people's houses, but the lucky girl is ours. Has come home' as a result his daughter-in-law respects her heartily. Compassion, respect, love, humility etc. are such expressions that can easily win anyone's heart. To boost the morale of the children who have been frustrated by being pushed from place to place for employment after reading and writingEmpathy from adults can prove to be an effective tonic. Pain in knee, hip, head, legs and arms are common problems in old age. Don't ruin a pleasant morning by complaining of knee or shoulder pain upon waking up, but be thankful that you have another beautiful day to live. As it is the law of nature that the unripe fruit has to be separated from the tree with the passage of time. In the same way, the human body has to go through the stages of childhood, youth and old age, and finally it has to become dirty in the soil.is This is the law of nature. When death is an inevitable truth then why fear it? Yes! As far as physical problems are concerned, at this age one should keep moderation in one's food and drink. One should keep oneself clean by doing small tasks according to one's physical capacity. Should eat light food. Calorie consumption is reduced due to less physical activity. Therefore, spicy chatpata and fried food should be avoided. If you are the head of a joint family then love everyone, but if one son more than othersIf he works, then praise him. Serving parents is not only a social responsibility of children but also a moral duty. Talk to parents politely, listen to them patiently. Even if you don't agree with their views, show tolerance in the same way as you show with other people outside. Whether you are a worker or a manager, you silently bear the scolding of your employer or boss, who has to give you only five or fifty thousand a month, but those parents who raised youYou have to give all the capital and property of your life, their words are bad for you and your tongue starts to move like scissors. Children who make parrot sounds are taught to speak by their parents. The situation becomes unbearable when the children making the same parroting sounds grow up and start arguing with their parents. Remember that you are well educated only because of your parents. As far as the life test is concerned you will be behind them all your life because parents are not in the life test.They are at the forefront. The bottom line is that the views of elders and children cannot meet like two banks of a river. This difference between the ideas of the new generation and the old generation has existed for centuries and will always remain, even though this difference of ideas cannot be eliminated, but it can be reduced. Therefore, the elderly should take care of their health by keeping control over their food and speech. On the other hand, children should not consider themselves smarter than their parents. Where you are today again, that veryThey have passed through this period long ago. Therefore, keeping the above things in mind, one can realize the joy of heaven on this earth.